My Husband's Porn Use Makes Me Not Want Sex with Him

He did not just watch a page. He built a private loop and acted like your needs could wait while he got off-screen comfort. Doran and Price found that regular porn use and relationship stress can raise breakup risk, so your body shutting down is understandable. Read these if your mind feels split between anger and longing: when porn over intimacy hurts most and how rebuilding starts after the discovery.

What this anger is really about

It is not about sex as punishment. It is about being honest in front of each other and still choosing each other.

Porn and hiding behavior may have trained his brain to choose instant control. You are no longer required to meet that pace.

A direct line for tonight

Say this once, clearly: "I cannot be intimate while you are still in denial. I need truth and consistency before touch."

No apologies about appetite, no debates on why you "must be understanding" right now. Keep it to the standard.

Anger with a plan

He needs specific tasks with deadlines. Weekly account review. Weekly check-in with no defense. One week review on promises.

If he does not move, your anger is not a burden, it is a survival signal. Your desire can return only where safety returns.